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October 14, 2010

To Blog or not to Blog… is not the Question by KevaD

Filed under: Writing life — dangerouslysexy @ 04:00
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In today’s electronic spider web of communicating, we have become blind, I believe, of what it is we are dealing with.

The Internet is forever. I don’t mean in terms of lasting ability. I’m referring to the fact that what you post on a blog will still be there for readers to view years from now.

Your momentary ‘rant’ will sit there like a mustachioed sweaty aunt who saw you naked twenty years ago to embarrass you long after you’ve wished the memory would just go away.

As writers and authors, we need to be aware of how fragile our relationship truly is with readers, the folks who buy our work.

Case in point: an author, who I’ll leave nameless as a courtesy, recently posted this on a publisher’s blog – her publisher’s blog:

Referring to her readers –

“People are lazy. If it doesn’t jump off a shelf and into their goddamn hand they won’t do it or buy it.”

Referring to her fellow writers –

“Oh and no one enters competitions. Cos they are required to do something – enter, not telepathically express interest. ”

With hundreds of thousands of books to choose from, did this author just make your list of books to buy? As a writer, is this someone you think could help advance your career, someone you want to hang out with over a digital cup of coffee?

In fairness, the author is a good person and skilled writer who, once she calms down, will regret her words. But, the eternal damage is done. Posting on someone else’s blog doesn’t come with an eraser.

Today’s writers need Internet exposure. However, caution should be taken not to expose yourself.

Just like the pervert on a corner throwing open a tattered raincoat to display his shortcomings, we can paint an unforgettable image in a prospective reader’s mind, we may well wish we hadn’t.

Before clicking that “post comment” bar, consider whether it is something you want your mother to see. If it is, then consider if it’s something your grandmother would want to read. And then think about if it’s something your readers will hold against you two years from now.

I’m not shy about leaving a post or two on people’s blogs. My purpose is fourfold.

One; I had something I wanted to say, to share, about the topic. It also lets the person who created the blog know I dropped in and liked what I saw. Creating a blog is easy. Maintaining it – – not so much.

Two; My post comes with a link to my own blog/web site. I’m trying to drum up visitors who then might become interested in my work and me and subsequently, hopefully, buy my books.

Three; Writers and authors who stop by may decide I’m someone they’d like to stay in touch with. And I’m a person who enjoys hearing from other writers. I believe we learn from each other and, as a result, become even better at our craft.

Four; On my blog I promote the work of a wide variety of authors. The span covers astrophysicists to erotica to healthy living. I do this for the simple reason I firmly believe we writers need to support one another.

Long ago, before technology shrank the world to a pinhead, writers gathered in living communities to share and hone their drive and efforts. When they traveled from one community to the next, they carried with them threads of their friends to share with new friends. Many times that involved leaving behind a book, and taking a new one with them to their next destination. Today those communities are electronic.

We ‘share’ by leaving footprints on each other’s sites and blogs.

Take advantage of this. Do not be shy about leaving your link (a post) on a writer’s blog. I’m certainly not.

But, what I find curious, is how many writers who I have visited, do not post a comment, a link, on my blog. The unspoken invitation is there for the taking. The advertising of your name, your work, is free, not counting the seconds required to post a comment.

I may well have viewers who aren’t familiar with your work click your link and become fans.

We talk about marketing and ‘how do I get my name out there.’

Blogs and commenting on those blogs, in my opinion, are an untapped resource requiring minimal effort.

Just think thrice before hitting that “post comment” bar.


  1. An excellent reminder. A couple of weeks ago a pastor at a local mega-church told his congregation, “I know WAY more about y’all than I want to! You do realize EVERYONE can read those tweets, right?” We used to be cautioned to think before we speak now when need to pause our collective fingers over that send button and ask ourselves, “Do I really want the world to know this?”

    Comment by Debbie Vaughan — October 14, 2010 @ 05:19 | Reply

  2. These are truly words to write by. Excellent blog topic and an eloquently expressed viewpoint I might add, of something we all as writers should be cognizant of. I would love for the readers of my blog to read this.


    Comment by Cornelle — October 14, 2010 @ 05:52 | Reply

    • Thank you, Cornelle, and thanks so very much for stopping by SWIH.
      Hope you become a regular visitor.

      Feel free to repost it on your blog. We won’t mind 🙂

      Comment by DA Kentner — October 14, 2010 @ 07:46 | Reply

  3. Wonderfully said, love!! Smiling sappily! I just love the way you have with words. And those words are so very, very true too. Like Thumper’s mom told him, “If you can’t say sumthin’ nice, don’t say nuthin’ at all!”

    Comment by Judith Leger — October 14, 2010 @ 06:51 | Reply

  4. Thank you, Debbie and Judy.
    You know I adore you both.

    Comment by DA Kentner — October 14, 2010 @ 07:47 | Reply

  5. How glad am I that you picked up on that little hint. I am elated to re-post this. Consider it done. And thanks to Judith, I’m already a regular visitor. I’m the fly on the wall to the right just soaking everything up.


    Thanks for guest blogging on my site with very little arm-twisting.


    Comment by Cornelle — October 14, 2010 @ 08:17 | Reply

  6. I’m late to the party as usual. Words of wisdom indeed. Commenting on other people’s blogs…brilliant idea. Being careful of what you say, excellent advice. But then I never expected anything less from one of your posts, David.

    Comment by Lillian Grant — October 14, 2010 @ 13:53 | Reply

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  8. Great blog topic here… although, I understand about my mother, not so much about my grandmother. Do I REALLY need to keep them in mind? Wearing white on my wedding day comes to mind, which I did not do… I’m not that sweet! 😀

    Comment by Elaina Lee — October 14, 2010 @ 14:48 | Reply

    • You keep anyone in mind you want to, Elaina.
      Thanks so much for commenting.

      I’ve always wondered about the bride in white and groom in black thing.
      The bride’s pure – the groom’s in mourning?

      Comment by DA Kentner — October 14, 2010 @ 15:02 | Reply

  9. In parts of Asia, white is for death.

    Brides used to wear green or red in North Europe. Queen Victoria is often credited with the move to white bridal gowns, but Elizabeth of Bohemia was a sensation in white three hundred years earlier. Blue used to be the color for purity, but when brides took to white, the color meanings shifted as well.

    Comment by Amber Green — October 14, 2010 @ 15:19 | Reply

    • Hi, Amber!
      Nice to hear from you.
      So, the bride wears white to signify the death of her husband’s freedom?
      Just kidding.
      You always amaze me with your encyclopedic mind.

      Comment by DA Kentner — October 14, 2010 @ 15:35 | Reply

  10. Errr, now I’m a little bit afraid to leave a comment, lol. Great post! I tend to fall more on the lurking end of the blogging spectrum. You’ve given me tonnes to think about! Maybe I’ll start coming out of lurkdome more often. 😉

    Comment by Gillian Archer — October 14, 2010 @ 15:46 | Reply

    • Please do, Gillian.
      You’re a quick wit and value to any discussion.

      Comment by DA Kentner — October 14, 2010 @ 15:50 | Reply

  11. No matter what blog community (writing/books, mommy blogs, gaming, personal, etc) a person is in, the topic of rants (in posts or comments) is always coming up. It’s fine to vent to a certain degree, but we also have to take into consideration how others will view it and react to it.

    As for leaving comments – that’s normally one of my rules of thumb when starting a new blog. You become part of the community of readers and exchange thoughts and info… which usually leads to people clicking through to see who you are. For some reason, I don’t comment much on writer blogs (except for giveaways) because it just seems… different. Or maybe it’s more about me feeling less knowledgeable in this part of the blogosphere than I do in other areas of it where I have a presence (through an alter ego, of course!).

    Comment by Ciara — October 16, 2010 @ 19:15 | Reply

    • You’re welcome here Ciara, love the name. I named my first heroine after you and we hadn’t even met. I don’t know a single writer who wasn’t a reader first and still.

      Comment by dangerouslysexy — October 16, 2010 @ 21:40 | Reply

  12. Great post and so true. It’s funny I was just having a similar conversation with some teenage girls I know about their facebook pages. You’ve gotta be careful what you post because it can come back to bite you.

    Comment by Lauren Fraser — October 19, 2010 @ 14:51 | Reply

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