Hello. My name is Gillian and I’m a lurker.
I’m sure my crit partners will find this confession a bit hard to believe. In our crit circle I never have an issue speaking up and saying my part. Whether I’m critiquing a piece or commenting on publishing news, I don’t hold back. But our circle is a safe place—what’s said there stays there. We can debate anything and it never leads to flame wars.
When it comes to places outside my safe haven, I’ve become somewhat of a hermit. I still read blogs and some of the larger writer forums, but I don’t comment. I don’t speak up. It hasn’t always been this way. When I first started writing, I joined a few forums and commented pretty much without a filter. I said anything that came to mind and prolly overshared quite a bit.
Now though… I’ve seen the issues that can come with posting without thought of the consequences. Cringe inducing confessions, hurt feelings and flame wars abound in romancelandia’s corner of the WWW. I don’t want to be one of those authors. Rather than figuring out how to find the proper balance, I’ve back away all together.
But now that I’m on the brink of selling my first story, I need to figure it out. Soon I’ll be promoting and putting myself out there. And honestly I think that part scares me more than any other part of the publishing cycle. Okay maybe not the most but still it’s a large fear. So any advice out there for me?
I’ll be here… lurking in the shadows.
Check out what Gillian’s up to now at her website